12. The Parents’ Prayer: Shep’tarani

Our sages taught that a parent is responsible for their child’s deeds (taking on their merit or sins) until the age of mitzvot; thereafter they must say “Praised are you, Adonai our God, Who rules the universe, Who has freed us of some responsibilities, and conferred new ones upon our child.”  Parents are invited to recite a short English reading and the Hebrew form of this prayer following the mitzvah aliyah.

We would be happy to send you the most appropriate text of this reading for your family’s format, gender, and number needs. The most common ones* can be downloaded in PDF format using these links:

Two-Parent Blessing for a single child

Two-Parent Blessing for siblings

One-Parent Blessing for a single child

One-Parent Blessing for siblings

*We would be happy to customize the prayer further for those who identify as non-binary or who would prefer gender-neutral language. Please speak with Cantor Green about this (cantor@kehillatbethisrael.com)